In My World all bears are men, or male in any case. This does not mean they can't occasionally wear feathers (see above) or a dress if the situation demands.
My friend and I went to see a production of Dombey and Son recently, a very misogynistic bit of literature if I may say so. Anyway, the demographic of the rest of the audience may best be described as retired gentlefolk, we stood out by our comparative youth, a pleasant experience for once!
A rather flambouyant gentleman kept getting up and trying out any empty seats, attempting to get a better view or something best known to him. At the interval he sat down next to the couple in front of us.
I think he asked them something along the lines of whether they came to the theatre often, and the man replied to the effect that they did indeed, and they were coming again very soon to see Julian Clary.
'What's that?' Enquired Flambouyant. 'He' replied Ordinary Man 'is the homosexual. And he dresses like one.' I was interested on a couple of levels here. The homosexual implied there is only one, which is obviously why he's on tour. And as for dressing like one...I wonder if he was thinking of Eddie Izzard, who dresses like, well whatever he fancies. Flambouyant Man didn't offer any interjection and simply got up and moved seats again. Most telling.
Try Googling 'Real men definition' if you want a good laugh. Or a cry.